Blog

Blog

Ni tape, ni punition ! Des paroles et des câlins ! Par Monique Busquet

Publié le 31 janvier 2017 à 15:35

Ni tape, ni punition ! Des paroles et des câlins ! Par Monique Busquet

Psychomotricienne

A l’heure où la loi qui interdit la violence éducative et la fessée fait encore polémique, il est essentiel de communiquer et partager à ce sujet.

Nombreux parents, mais aussi certains professionnels pensent qu’une fessée ou une petite tape sur les mains n’a jamais fait de mal à personne. Cela leur paraît être le moyen le plus simple et efficace de faire comprendre à un bébé ce qu’il ne doit pas toucher par exemple.

Cette pratique a heureusement disparu des établissements d’accueil, les professionnels ont intégré que cela leur est absolument interdit. Mais parfois au fond de chacun de vous, peut-être que cela n’est pas si clair…

Pourtant soyez en sûrs : donner une petite tape « même légère » sur les doigts est un contre-message et cela aboutit à l’effet inverse.

En effet, que comprend un enfant lorsque l’adulte se permet une tape pour lui signifier son mécontentement : il voit que l’adulte tape lorsqu’il n’est pas content et veut obtenir quelque chose!

Or vous savez que les enfants apprennent par imitation. Nos actes sont plus forts et ont plus de poids que nos paroles. Ils vont donc imiter ce que nous faisons. Une fessée, comme une petite tape donnent en modèle les coups et la force physique au lieu des mots… Pourquoi et comment leur dire de ne pas taper si nous tapons nous-mêmes ? Quelle crédibilité ont alors nos paroles ?

Mais alors? Comment faire comprendre aux enfants les interdits lorsqu’ils n’obéissent pas ? Que pouvons- nous faire ? Les punir, les « mettre au coin » ? Non plus !

Parce qu’ « une punition », est pensée pour « embêter » l’enfant : cherche à lui faire vivre quelque chose de désagréable pour qu’il comprenne qu’il ne doit pas faire lui-même quelque chose de désagréable. C’est un peu « œil pour œil, dent pour dent » ! Là encore l’enfant risque d’imiter les comportements de l’adulte : « quand on n’est pas content, on cherche à embêter ». Ce n’est pas ainsi qu’un enfant intègre les règles, les interdits et le respect de l’autre.

Alors, que faire ?

Dire non et le répéter, empêcher l’enfant de toucher ou taper, avec une autorité claire et confiante, est beaucoup plus efficace et éducatif. Lui parler, l’écouter, le comprendre, accueillir ses émotions, sa colère, ses envies, continuer à communiquer, le prendre dans ses bras pour l’aider à s’apaiser.

Il a besoin de l’aide de l’adulte pour réguler ses émotions, il a besoin d’être accompagné lorsque sa curiosité, sa frustration, son énervement ou sa colère le débordent.

Plus un enfant reçoit des tapes, plus il tapera aussi.Plus vous montrez de la bienveillance, de l’écoute, de l’acceptation, de l’empathie vers ce qu’il ressent, plus cet enfant fera comme vous avec les autres.

Faites-lui confiance !

Les chroniques de Monique Busquet

 

Catégories : Aucun

Publier un commentaire

Oups !

Oops, you forgot something.

Oups !

Les mots que vous avez saisis ne correspondent pas au texte affiché. Veuillez réessayer.

317 commentaires

Répondre 100% real jordans for cheap
à 1:37 le 26 décembre 2020 
I enjoy you because of your entire effort on this web site. My daughter really loves doing internet research and it's obvious why. We all notice all relating to the lively method you offer great items through the web blog and in addition inspire response from people on that area then my girl has always been starting to learn a great deal. Have fun with the remaining portion of the year. You are conducting a fantastic job.
100% real jordans for cheap http://www.jordansforcheap.us.com
Répondre supreme clothing
à 1:37 le 26 décembre 2020 
I intended to create you that very small observation to say thanks as before relating to the stunning solutions you've contributed on this page. This has been simply strangely generous with you to provide without restraint what exactly a few people could have advertised for an electronic book to earn some cash on their own, notably considering that you might well have done it if you ever wanted. Those ideas as well served to be the good way to be certain that the rest have the identical interest much like mine to figure out a good deal more with respect to this issue. I am certain there are lots of more fun instances up front for people who looked over your blog.
supreme clothing http://www.supremeclothingsstore.com
Répondre yeezys
à 1:38 le 26 décembre 2020 
I would like to show some thanks to this writer for rescuing me from this particular difficulty. As a result of looking through the internet and obtaining suggestions which are not beneficial, I thought my life was over. Existing without the solutions to the problems you have fixed by means of your good short article is a critical case, and the kind that would have in a wrong way affected my entire career if I hadn't come across the website. That natural talent and kindness in controlling every item was valuable. I don't know what I would have done if I had not come across such a stuff like this. I can at this time look forward to my future. Thank you so much for this professional and result oriented guide. I will not be reluctant to suggest the sites to any individual who would need guidelines on this problem.
yeezys http://www.yeezysus.com
Répondre moncler outlet
à 1:38 le 26 décembre 2020 
I am just commenting to let you be aware of of the exceptional discovery my friend's girl found using your webblog. She came to understand numerous pieces, with the inclusion of what it is like to have a wonderful teaching character to make the others really easily fully understand selected hard to do subject matter. You undoubtedly surpassed our expected results. I appreciate you for presenting these helpful, safe, edifying and in addition easy tips on this topic to Mary.
moncler outlet http://www.moncler--outlet.us.com
Répondre golden goose
à 1:38 le 26 décembre 2020 
I in addition to my pals have been studying the excellent points from your website then then came up with a terrible suspicion I never expressed respect to the web blog owner for those secrets. My men were as a consequence stimulated to read all of them and have in effect quite simply been loving them. I appreciate you for really being really accommodating as well as for going for some essential ideas most people are really wanting to learn about. My very own sincere apologies for not expressing appreciation to earlier.
golden goose http://www.goldengoosessale.com
Répondre yeezys
à 15:47 le 26 décembre 2020 
I actually wanted to jot down a comment so as to thank you for some of the magnificent advice you are placing on this website. My extensive internet search has at the end been rewarded with high-quality know-how to share with my family members. I would express that we site visitors are truly blessed to dwell in a fine website with very many wonderful professionals with helpful principles. I feel very much grateful to have encountered your entire weblog and look forward to plenty of more pleasurable moments reading here. Thank you once again for everything.
yeezys http://www.yeezysus.com
Répondre golden goose shoes
à 15:48 le 26 décembre 2020 
I want to get across my appreciation for your generosity giving support to persons that absolutely need help on in this subject. Your real dedication to getting the message around ended up being extraordinarily informative and has specifically helped guys just like me to realize their goals. The helpful suggestions can mean so much to me and a whole lot more to my colleagues. Warm regards; from all of us.
golden goose shoes http://www.goldengoose-shoes.us.com
Répondre longchamp
à 15:48 le 26 décembre 2020 
I together with my guys were checking out the great key points on the website while immediately developed a terrible feeling I never thanked the blog owner for them. These young men are already as a result thrilled to see all of them and have in effect in truth been making the most of those things. Many thanks for truly being really kind and also for obtaining this form of high-quality subject matter most people are really desirous to learn about. Our honest regret for not expressing gratitude to sooner.
longchamp http://www.longchampshandbags.us
Répondre off white nike
à 15:49 le 26 décembre 2020 
I precisely needed to say thanks yet again. I do not know what I would've achieved in the absence of the entire tips and hints shown by you on my subject. This has been a real hard scenario in my circumstances, however , observing the expert form you handled that made me to cry over joy. I'm just grateful for this advice as well as hope you recognize what an amazing job you're carrying out instructing many people all through your webblog. Most likely you have never come across all of us.
off white nike http://www.nikexoffwhite.com
Répondre jordan 6
à 15:49 le 26 décembre 2020 
I simply wished to say thanks yet again. I do not know the things I might have carried out in the absence of the type of hints provided by you concerning my situation. Completely was a alarming issue for me personally, but being able to view the specialised manner you handled that made me to cry over contentment. Now i am happier for your work and trust you recognize what a powerful job your are putting in training many others through your webblog. More than likely you have never come across all of us.
jordan 6 http://www.jordan6.us.com
Répondre lebron james shoes
à 15:49 le 26 décembre 2020 
I just wanted to send a small note so as to thank you for those marvelous tips and tricks you are sharing at this site. My extensive internet lookup has now been honored with awesome knowledge to talk about with my colleagues. I would believe that most of us visitors are very lucky to exist in a superb place with so many lovely people with good tactics. I feel extremely lucky to have used your entire site and look forward to plenty of more excellent times reading here. Thanks a lot once again for all the details.
lebron james shoes http://www.lebron18.net
Répondre jordan 12
à 15:49 le 26 décembre 2020 
A lot of thanks for your entire hard work on this blog. Ellie really likes conducting investigation and it's really easy to see why. We all hear all about the dynamic ways you present invaluable tips via the blog and as well inspire response from other people about this concept plus our own simple princess is now studying a lot of things. Take advantage of the remaining portion of the new year. Your doing a first class job.
jordan 12 http://www.jordan12.us.com
Répondre supreme shirt
à 15:00 le 27 décembre 2020 
Needed to compose you this very small observation just to thank you very much the moment again for the lovely information you have documented above. It has been really shockingly generous of you to present easily all that many individuals might have distributed as an e book to earn some cash for their own end, most notably now that you could possibly have tried it if you ever wanted. Those good tips as well served to become fantastic way to be aware that someone else have the identical dream the same as mine to grasp a whole lot more on the subject of this issue. I'm certain there are millions of more pleasurable occasions in the future for many who read your website.
supreme shirt http://www.supreme.us.org
Répondre yeezy 500
à 22:54 le 27 décembre 2020 
Thanks so much for providing individuals with such a marvellous opportunity to read critical reviews from this web site. It really is very excellent and as well , jam-packed with amusement for me personally and my office peers to search your web site a minimum of thrice in a week to read the new secrets you have. And lastly, I'm just actually motivated with the incredible creative concepts you give. Selected 2 facts in this post are honestly the simplest I have ever had.
yeezy 500 http://www.yeezy-500.us.com
Répondre golden goose outlet
à 12:58 le 28 décembre 2020 
I precisely desired to thank you so much once again. I'm not certain the things I would've handled in the absence of the actual opinions provided by you relating to my problem. It has been a difficult condition in my circumstances, nevertheless understanding the very professional manner you dealt with it made me to leap over contentment. Now i am happy for this advice and even expect you are aware of an amazing job you were carrying out instructing the rest with the aid of your webblog. I am sure you've never got to know all of us.
golden goose outlet http://www.goldengooseoutlets.us
Répondre golden goose sneakers
à 19:54 le 28 décembre 2020 
I actually wanted to send a quick message so as to thank you for the magnificent instructions you are giving on this website. My time-consuming internet research has at the end of the day been paid with professional facts and techniques to share with my company. I would repeat that most of us visitors are truly blessed to live in a notable site with many marvellous people with useful ideas. I feel rather privileged to have discovered your entire site and look forward to plenty of more exciting minutes reading here. Thanks a lot once again for a lot of things.
golden goose sneakers http://www.goldengoosesonline.com
Répondre steph curry shoes
à 9:18 le 29 décembre 2020 
I wish to express thanks to the writer just for bailing me out of this type of incident. As a result of scouting throughout the internet and finding opinions which were not helpful, I was thinking my life was over. Living minus the answers to the issues you have solved as a result of your good post is a serious case, as well as ones that would have badly affected my entire career if I hadn't come across your site. Your main mastery and kindness in handling almost everything was vital. I am not sure what I would have done if I hadn't come upon such a point like this. I can now relish my future. Thanks a lot so much for your skilled and sensible help. I won't hesitate to refer your web site to any individual who needs and wants tips on this subject.
steph curry shoes http://www.curryshoes.net
Répondre yeezy 350 v2
à 4:02 le 30 décembre 2020 
I enjoy you because of your whole effort on this blog. My daughter really loves participating in research and it's really simple to grasp why. We all notice all relating to the powerful form you convey very useful tips and tricks via your web site and as well cause response from people on that concept then my girl is without a doubt learning so much. Take advantage of the remaining portion of the new year. You are always doing a really great job.
yeezy 350 v2 http://www.yeezy-v2.com
Répondre longchamp
à 15:28 le 30 décembre 2020 
I simply had to thank you so much once more. I am not sure the things I would have gone through without the actual ideas shared by you concerning such a question. It was before a alarming issue for me personally, but coming across your skilled manner you handled the issue made me to cry with joy. I am just happy for your assistance as well as hope that you comprehend what an amazing job you happen to be providing teaching most people with the aid of your blog. More than likely you've never got to know all of us.
longchamp http://www.longchampshandbags.us
Répondre hermes birkin
à 19:15 le 31 décembre 2020 
Thank you for your whole hard work on this website. My mum enjoys getting into research and it's obvious why. We all learn all regarding the powerful way you produce great ideas on your website and therefore strongly encourage contribution from some others on this article plus our own princess is really learning a lot of things. Take advantage of the remaining portion of the new year. Your performing a really great job.
hermes birkin http://www.hermesbirkinbags.us.com
0